Reflection Friday: The journey to knowing yourself is hard but necessary

It wasn't until after a post I wrote on pressure that I began to look at myself differently. It was weird. Who gets up in the morning and asks the question, "Do I really know myself"?

Its a hard question to ask, not because I couldn't answer it, but because of what it might mean.

Let me ask you this question:

If there was one thing you believe every person on the planet should seriously and intentionally pursue that will transform their ability to grow, what one thing would that be?

I've now come to believe it is knowing yourself.

Why would I put so much weight and importance on the skill and revelation of self awareness or knowing yourself deeply, embracing all your strengths and at the same time accepting all your short comings?

I believe it's the starting point for self mastery and fulfillment. A great article written by Thorin Klosowski's in Lifehacker, and one I'd recommend for further reading, refers to self awareness as the key to self improvement. 

Self awareness by itself doesn't make you happy or better. It allows you to recognise your deepest values, convictions, fears and joys so you can show up in an existing happiness and choice to be more. It is an individual journey, a narrow road that you have to choose to travel daily.

Self awareness isn't just about your personality type it's about your beliefs, behaviours, choices, relationships, secrets, failures, successes, desires and more. Its about what makes you tick and going to the places you fear.

A study by Warwick University states, 'Self awareness is important because when we have a better understanding of ourselves, we are able to experience ourselves as unique and separate individuals. We are then empowered to make changes and to build on our areas of strength as well as identify areas where we would like to make improvements.'

Debbie Ford said self-awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad. 
Billie Jean King said I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion. 

I'm not one to give you advice because giving advice is easy, living it is hard. I'm not your guru. You are yours. Here are some things I've found helpful in my journey.

  • Revisit or retake your behavioural profile. ( I've used Sally Hogshead Fascinate, DISC, Insights and Strengths Finders. All offer a different perspective that you can gain rich insight from.)
  • Get feedback from people who will tell you the truth but won't try to hurt you with it. Ask the question, "what do you recognise as my strengths?" or "what areas do I have room to work on?" or even "how do you experience how I show up daily?" Other great questions you might consider are HERE.
  • Slow down. Take note of when and why you feel angry, frustrated, happy, joyful, sad, hopeful, or grateful. Then write them down. 

In the end the journey is yours. On the other side is an opportunity for you to contribute more of who you are at a deeper level and live life with more confidence, conviction and clarity.

Want to hear the story of someone who is living the journey of self awareness? Listen to this interview with Lisa Nichols HERE

What next?

If you're a key account manager, consultant or sales leader who recognises the continued importance to master yourself, your sales and customer relationships, get connected with me at

Jermaine Edwards

Founder of the Key Account Hack System - New Key Account thinking that transforms customer relationships and creates predictable sales growth.